I’ve been with a number of new clients recently who need to grow their skills dealing with subordinates. These clients are all Type A. That is, they operate at a fast pace. When they need to slow down to listen better or to delegate they actually feel pain from holding back. The pain can help them grow the habits they need.
One client needs to listen better; allowing others to speak their ideas, to stop finishing their sentences and to not fill every pause. Every time she does one of those three things she feels pain. She can’t measure immediately whether her better listening is working but she can measure how much pain she’s feeling and how often. She now knows that when, at the end of a day, she can remember lots of instances of pain that she’s been meeting her listening objectives. She can confidently know that if she keeps a diary and records ‘pain’ every day for 21 days that she’ll have done a good job growing a good habit.
Can you think of some new habit you’d like to grow and the associated pain that comes with practice. Put the two together to help you grow.